You are so right about the guilt. I feel guilty when I ask my daughter to help me. Yet it is a cycle.

My father helped both my grandparents. My sister and I helped both our parents, and now my daughter helps me.

We look after our children when they are young and cannot manage, and they look after us when we are old, and we cannot manage.

This cycle is accepted quite naturally by other cultures, yet we have difficulty with it in the western world. Why? I think there's a lot of condemnation about children looking after parents. I heard Judge Judy give vent that children shouldn't look after their parents because parents have a lifetime to prepare financially for their old age (able to pay for a care home, etc.).

That isn't reality for most people, is it?