Yes, I understood the subtext, Vincent, and what I wanted to say is that, at this point, it doesn’t exist. There is no connection between us. That is not a statement of enmity – just a factual one. On the web, we all talk to each other, but, as in real life, it takes a long time for bonds to form.

You’re correct in that you say that is the similarities and sameness in a value system that creates bonds.

“You landed better than most. Men need that, from women.” Thank you. I think, however, it was a crash landing. 😊 Unfortunately, I don’t see any reason to carry other people (men and women) emotionally when I’ve had to carry myself emotionally for a life time.

“Because it's so rare, for a woman to guide a man to a place of realization, because we don't get anything beyond the surface.” I don’t think this has anything to do with gender. Some people are thinkers – most people aren’t. I am a thinker. There are other thinkers on Medium.

Vincent, I’m not trying to say anything to anyone’s soul. If I use the word, it’s more a poetic use than any belief that human beings have a soul. I’m very much a hardcore atheist – almost a nihilist. I have no belief in love. I believe in living according to principle – according to ethics. I believe in benevolence – in working towards the collective good.

It sounds to me as if you’re talking about relationships between men and women. Unfortunately, that is not something that I do. I have Asperger’s Syndrome, and I lived through terrible abuse until my mid-40s. Together, with a combination of other factors, I never got involved in the ‘relationship’ game. I am on my own, and I’m 70 now. It’s not something that is every going to happen. I have always been on my own, and I will be on my own for the rest of my life.

Medium is not there to try to connect with other people. I write here in order to earn a living. That said, over a period of time, writers and readers do become friends – intellectual friends. Perhaps relationships develop between men and women, I don’t know. I also don’t care. It’s not where I am, and it’s something I actively discourage when men approach me.

There is no unkindness in saying this. I just want you to be aware of it. Be well.