Okay, but we're not talking about kids. We're talking about me - an adult. A highly polished, very sophisticated, very well dressed, very attractive, and very well spoken adult. Also, a highly intelligent, gifted and talented one.

I book an appointment with a counsellor and tell them I struggle to achieve anything in life. That I am always unpopular, that people are bitchy to me, that I do my job extremely well, and that I eventually leave because I cannot take the nastiness anymore.

Why is it automatically assumed that I lack confidence, that this is about my feeling bad, that I must be suicidal, that my problems must be emotional? Why?

Why is it not assumed that I may have a learning disability and why was Asperger's never suggested?

I have never gone to any counsellor because I am distressed, depressed, unable to cope. I went because I didn't understand why I didn't have a boyfriend, wasn't invited to parties, etc.

Of course, I could also tell you I was never short of dates. When I was 24 or 25, I went out for 18 months with a different guy every night 7 days a week. I was highly sought after. Never had a second date with any of them. Never spoke to them on the dates either. I didn't realize that I was supposed to speak.

Not one of these counsellors asked me to describe what actually happened on the date.

Why do you talk here about people's feelings? As I indicated in my article. I don't have any issues with my feelings. I acknowledge them and observe them. I also don't have any issues with my ability. My IQ was 165 when I was a kid and measured as off-the-graph when I was in my mid 40s. I was given 5 hours for the test and did it in 90 minutes.

I also fitted every rare category that I was tested for and no incidence of mental illness was found.

My point is that your 'education' only prepared you for people who are emotionally distressed, lack confidence, are mentally ill, etc.