Oh, lordie, and the minute anyone shows any interest in my personal life, I run six miles. It means that they are not interested in the topics that interest me - climate change, pandemics, architecture, travel, etc.

The following draws me to partners.

1. If there's chemistry.

2. If they are ethical.

3. If they share the same interests and value system.

I cannot understand why I should be interested in their past - it's over. And I certainly cannot understandy why anyone would be interested in either my past or anyting about me. I'm irrelevant.