No, Anthony, I'm not. I've lived through apartheid. I know how cruel forced segregation is. I am saying, however, that there are no easy solutions, and I don't know any complex one's either.

"It shows the bigotry of people around you."

Well, Yes. And, perhaps, because I've lived with so much bigotry for most of my life, I've realized that sometimes you just have to accept it, and move on. Shitty position.

Naturally, I got to talking to my daughter about this discussion I am having with you and she said that heterosexual men felt threatened by gay men

She also told me this story of a gay guy on youtube. James was very popular and had a female friend who kept telling him that he couldn't hit on a straight waiter when they went out to eat. James deneid it and made a video saying that his friend was talking rubbish - that he had never hit on straight men.

Everything went back to normal, except the girl was branded a liar.

A year later, on Tic Toc, a straight 16 year old boy said that he had been hit on James. Then more and more straight guys came forward. And, then, eventually, the waiter he had hit on came forward...

Now I understand that you can't tar everybody with the same brush. However, just as Dems want stricter gun laws on everybody even though some people don't need them, the point is not to get at the innocent guys but to prevent harm from the one's most likely to sin.

Sso the fact that some gay men have hit on straight men and will continue to do so is a problem. How does a straight man trust a gay man not to come on to him, if he is mocked by other men (this is socialization), and how does he protect himself if he is forced into something.

I guess prevention is better than cure.

Is it bigotry to fear this happening? I don't think so. I think it's something of an instinctual or primal fear. (I'm not sure about that.)

I also think that it's unfortunate that there are these segregations between people - that people are uncomfortable with people who are not like them. Again, this is biological, but it doesn't help that we are then heavily socialized as well.

When I went back to South Africa, I noticed that all the white people my age were still racists. I would have thought that having come into contact with people who were also human - just a different skin hue - that that would have changed. Not so.

I think to some extent, early socialization and education are vital, but I also think it can go askew.

So, again, no answers. Just pointing out that heterosexual men are going to continue to not want gay men in their locker rooms. And I'm going to continue to be rejected because I have Asperger's, am an atheist, a bit of a loser, etc. I live with it because, in all of that, I am extremely blessed to have so many friends of equal value system though my writing.