Me?

i give away things with no expectation of things in return. I don't care.

I talk happily to people without needing them to admire me or want their applause. I don't care.

The fact that you say that demonstrates that you want something in return.

5. The constant expectation that I would want to be physically involved with them was enough to turn me off for life. The fact that they wouldn't converse about the world's most crucial problems was another turn off. At that time, in the 70s, I wanted to talk about the wrongs of apartheid and climate change.

I recall this one guy who asked me out for a date. On the first date, he gave me two tickets for some world sports game. I have no interest in sport. I accepted them and a friend asked me if she could have them, so I gave them to her.

The next time the guy asked me out, he put his hand on my knee. I asked him to remove his hand from my knee. I can't remember what he said to that, but the outcome was him asking me for the sports ticket back and turning round and taking me home.

I told him I couldn't give him the sports tickets back becausee I had given them to someone else.

Another time, this guy I was absoluely nuts about asked me out. He took me up to his bedroom and asked me to wait for him there. I was confused. When he came back, and I expected to go out, he got into bed and wanted me to get into bed with him. I declined

I was so devastated that |I left the country.

Years later I asked him what he felt for me. He said he would have married me but I didn't seem interested.

Another time, I asked a guy how he made money. He asked me to lunch and then proceeded to boast about all sorts of things, but didn't answer the question. I realized that he wasn't going to answer the question, and I got up and left.

Another time, I was desperate to earn more, and asked a client how one earned money because I desperately needed to earn more.

He invited me for lunch, and I explained the problem in detail. He then exploded at me and said that it wasn't about me - I should give him a chance to tell me all about him. I was gobsmacked.

I could give you a thousand stories like that.

I have no time for dating men. It is a waste of my time. When I have coffee with friends, there is no expectation of getting something in return. We're just enjoying each other's company, and we're talking about things that interest us. I have yet to meet a man where it's that simple.

Thank you, but no thank you.