I read about boarding school syndrome many years ago when I lived in London. I’m not asking you what forgiveness means to another person. I’m asking you what you think it is.

I don’t forgive people — not until they have made reparation for the harm they have done. I do, however, accept people as they are. That is different. In order to be forgiven, someone needs to have done something wrong. Until they have put that right, there can be no forgiveness for them.

I wasn’t disagreeing with your experience. I was disagreement with your statement that we don’t forgive others because of what they feel, but because of what we feel. That wasn’t stated as an opinion. That was stated as a fact — something that is repeated over and over again by people who have been exposed to Christianity.