I guess I've never been part of the gender wars, never having wanted or been interested in what other people wanted.

Sure I've met men who I thought were twisted (incels), and I never had any problem simply removing myself from their company. Sure I met men whom I dated who were rich, goodlooking, well-educated, etc.

The bottom line is there is some truth to what they say about most women wanting a rich man. Read any romantic novel and that's what all of them are about.

What they're not saying is that the reason they are rejected is that they are not very desirable or they're not very nice people.