I don't understand your question.. I didn't spend a lot of time with him. Originally, I was going to stay at a hotel and, instead of doing my shopping in London, was going to do it in Southampton - kill two birds with one stone.

I allocated four days to do my shopping and explore the city a bit. As it turned out, he offered to put me up as he had a room he normally let out to Airb&b. I accepted.

Within hours of arriving, I knew it was a mistake, but I had to find another hotel, etc. And it was late at night by the time we got back.

I was trying not to hurt his feelings.

Why did I meet up with him in the first place? We worked together a long time ago, and there was unfinished business with other people, and I always wanted to know what happened to some others. He did tell me.